My mom is to have cataract surgery on tax day. She's insistent that she bring my dad home from the nursing home three days PRIOR to surgery. I suggested today that perhaps a delay in his return home by one week would be logistically prudent. She was not open to that suggestion.
She is very angry that no one from their Sunday School class has taken time to visit my dad at the nursing home. Did I mention that she's Very Very Angry?
She is also upset that no one calls to check on her. I think I was purposely lumped into that last group since I didn't call her today. (This is the exact same conversation she used to have with her own mother, which she always told me to NEVER have with her, but I digress.)
But, I was busy working on my own house, finances, and mental health today -- and somehow those are all intertwined anyway.
I am really very disappointed in their SS class members as well. But I can't call them and chew them out for not caring -- or for not caring in the way my mom and dad both desperately need at the moment.
Maybe, just maybe, part of the anger today is fear about Dad's surgical procedure tomorrow.
We'll see.
2 comments:
Deborah,
Deep breaths. Don't lose the feelin you had when you came back from Vegas yet.
Your mom is probably overwhelmed with the idea of your dad having another procedure, coming home from the nursing home, and her own procedure.
She probably does feel abandoned by her friends, but I know that it is often hard to keep up with people all the time.
I wonder if there is a medical professional or the nursing home administrator that you could call and ask to tell your mother that your dad should stay a little longer.
Thanks for the suggestions. I'd not thought of having someone else be "the heavy." Interesting how we always want to fix it ourselves, isn't it?
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