Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Feeling awful

I have learned from a very, very good friend that her husband has cheated on her. I am devastated for her. I am so angry at him I can't even speak about it. The shock wore off last night at bedtime and I cried and cried for her. He's broken a sacred trust or bond and knowing him, he's sad -- but because he got caught.

Oh the thoughts and feelings that I've had this week. A good Christian friend, Tena, told me to pray for my own marriage whenever I stop to pray for my friend's. Tena has seen what happens to marriages that are collateral damage from infidelities. She's wise to tell me to pray for my own marriage.

I've talked to my friend, told her I'll pray for her. They have two children, so I'm praying for protection for them -- to not realize what's going on. And I'm praying that my friend's health has not been compromised in any way.

If you feel inclined to pray for them, please do so.

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tortugaquilter said...
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Cheryl said...

That is hard. Same thing happened to a friend of mine, even though no children were involved she took him back. They had a child. He had a huge midlife crisis when the child was in middle school, moved out of their house and into the house of with his new "love." He wants to know why the child is angry.

My friend was smart and got a good lawyer before they even discussed divorce, and that way she knew what to do to protect herself.

Just remember to support your friend, listen, and don't advise her what to do because if she decides to do the opposite she might hold whatever you said against you.