The final pathology results came in last Friday. It was endometrial in nature, the doctors said. That means the cancers mom had in 2001 and 1998 have spread. An MRI was done and no brain tumors were found.
She's been discharged and is now in a nursing home. She needs to regain her strength, lose the nausea, and get better.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
The oldest is on a roll!
He competed in band solo contest last Friday and made a 1+ rating. I couldn't be there to hear it as I was moving mom to a nursing home.
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Another accomplishment for my oldest
He pulled an envelope out of his backpack tonight. It is an invitation to join the National Elementary Honor Society! The induction ceremony is this Tuesday night. Too bad mom is still in the hospital. I know that she'd love to be there. We'll have to videotape the whole thing.
It's been a great week for my oldest!
It's been a great week for my oldest!
Saturday, May 16, 2009
Brother is.....??
well....I was shocked and amazed that my brother came to town for my mom's surgery.
I was glad, because my husband was still overseas when the sugery took place. Hubby got home Friday night. Brother called me at 9:30 today telling me he was leaving town. He's tired of hearing mom fuss at dad. I was dumbfounded. Then I found my voice and proceeded to tell him:
I am tired and need his help. He respsonded that he works 8 days and week and misses his family too. I said I'm not talking about being physically tired -- I'm emotionally tired of carrying the entire load of caring for OUR parents. He said, well you live in the same town.
I said I needed him to stay today and care for Daddy so that I could spend time with my husband and my sons. He said he wanted to see his family too. I said, I've done this all on my own for two weeks while my husband has been overseas for work. I've done all the doctor's appointments with my parents leading up to the surgery and I needed a break. I also reminded him that once he goes home, it will all be my responsibility again.
I also pointed out to him that the two times in the last 22 months that he's actually been here have been times of crisis. Mom has been scared out of her mind (for dad and now for herself with cancer). She's in pain and she's on pain medication. I told him that she won't remember any of what's gone on for the past few days once she's better. I told him that she's grumpy because she's scared, in pain and on meds. I told him he has to let it go in one ear and out the other. That when she gripes, he is to go to her bed, touch her, calm her and tell her to remember that God loves her and is in control of all of this.
He made noises like he didn't like what he was hearing. I explained to him that he should be grateful to our mom for not divorcing our dad when dad got so sick. I reminded him that she could have done that and left the two of us to be responsible for dad's care and well-being...BUT SHE DIDN'T! I also told him that she's the living example of what marriage vows mean. The man she married is dead and gone -- mental illness took him a long time ago -- but that because she loved that man so much, she's loving and caring for the guy that our dad has become.
Brother didn't have much to say after that one. He seems to be under the impression that mom rags on him for not being here to help. so I told him a little story....
I told him that in the past few months, mom called me one day all upset and told me how I never help her with my dad. I was speechless when that happened. I now know that it was a medication issue and have had to choose to let that one go. Chalk it up to experience with that medication and know that she didn't mean it. It hurt at the time, but I didn't stop helping her with dad. Brother didn't say anything after that little revelation either.
So the day has ended...my brother is still in town. He actually stayed and cared for our parents today. I was surprised and grateful. He even attended my youngest son's piano recital tonight. And after we'd all had dinner together, he even viewed the videotape that I made of my oldest son's band concert. (I taped it becuase hubby was out of town, so we all got to see it tonight.)
It was sad to hear him say he was going to leave just because it was uncomforatable to be around mom today. I am very glad he 'manned up' and stayed the whole day. I just hope he realizes that we do enjoy his company and that it's not that far of a drive for him to see us all.
I was glad, because my husband was still overseas when the sugery took place. Hubby got home Friday night. Brother called me at 9:30 today telling me he was leaving town. He's tired of hearing mom fuss at dad. I was dumbfounded. Then I found my voice and proceeded to tell him:
I am tired and need his help. He respsonded that he works 8 days and week and misses his family too. I said I'm not talking about being physically tired -- I'm emotionally tired of carrying the entire load of caring for OUR parents. He said, well you live in the same town.
I said I needed him to stay today and care for Daddy so that I could spend time with my husband and my sons. He said he wanted to see his family too. I said, I've done this all on my own for two weeks while my husband has been overseas for work. I've done all the doctor's appointments with my parents leading up to the surgery and I needed a break. I also reminded him that once he goes home, it will all be my responsibility again.
I also pointed out to him that the two times in the last 22 months that he's actually been here have been times of crisis. Mom has been scared out of her mind (for dad and now for herself with cancer). She's in pain and she's on pain medication. I told him that she won't remember any of what's gone on for the past few days once she's better. I told him that she's grumpy because she's scared, in pain and on meds. I told him he has to let it go in one ear and out the other. That when she gripes, he is to go to her bed, touch her, calm her and tell her to remember that God loves her and is in control of all of this.
He made noises like he didn't like what he was hearing. I explained to him that he should be grateful to our mom for not divorcing our dad when dad got so sick. I reminded him that she could have done that and left the two of us to be responsible for dad's care and well-being...BUT SHE DIDN'T! I also told him that she's the living example of what marriage vows mean. The man she married is dead and gone -- mental illness took him a long time ago -- but that because she loved that man so much, she's loving and caring for the guy that our dad has become.
Brother didn't have much to say after that one. He seems to be under the impression that mom rags on him for not being here to help. so I told him a little story....
I told him that in the past few months, mom called me one day all upset and told me how I never help her with my dad. I was speechless when that happened. I now know that it was a medication issue and have had to choose to let that one go. Chalk it up to experience with that medication and know that she didn't mean it. It hurt at the time, but I didn't stop helping her with dad. Brother didn't say anything after that little revelation either.
So the day has ended...my brother is still in town. He actually stayed and cared for our parents today. I was surprised and grateful. He even attended my youngest son's piano recital tonight. And after we'd all had dinner together, he even viewed the videotape that I made of my oldest son's band concert. (I taped it becuase hubby was out of town, so we all got to see it tonight.)
It was sad to hear him say he was going to leave just because it was uncomforatable to be around mom today. I am very glad he 'manned up' and stayed the whole day. I just hope he realizes that we do enjoy his company and that it's not that far of a drive for him to see us all.
Mom's lung surgery
Mom had lung surgery on 5/14 to remove the cancerous tumor that was in her right lung. They got the tumor out and did testing on it. The testing was inconclusive for the type of cancer, so the surgeon decided to treat mom as if she had lung cancer. That required opening up her side and removing the rest of that lobe of her lung, taking lymph nodes and tissue samples for biopsy.
We will not know the results of the testing until late next week.
Mom is currently in ICU and will not be out of there until she is up and walking. I hope that she's mobile within a couple of days because if she's not, she's at risk for pneumonia setting in.
We will not know the results of the testing until late next week.
Mom is currently in ICU and will not be out of there until she is up and walking. I hope that she's mobile within a couple of days because if she's not, she's at risk for pneumonia setting in.
The earth stopped revolving on Thursday....
Just in case you noticed, the earth screeched to a halt on it's axis on Thursday morning. My brother actually came to town for my mom's surgery!
He's not been here to see our parents in 22 months -- and he only lives 2.5 hours away.
He's not been here to see our parents in 22 months -- and he only lives 2.5 hours away.
My son the musician...
My son is in 6th grade this year. His school has 3 bands for the 7th adn 8th graders. During the past two or three weeks the 6th graders who want to continue with band next year have been trying out for the different bands.
My guy said he was shooting for the middle band. He was required to play all pieces with 80% accuracy. Well, the results were posted this past week and he made it into the TOP band!!!! I am so proud of him. Once he'd started practicing, I think he decided to just do his very best and see what happened.
He's in the top band next year! oh, you might need to take cover, my buttons are popping I'm so proud!
My guy said he was shooting for the middle band. He was required to play all pieces with 80% accuracy. Well, the results were posted this past week and he made it into the TOP band!!!! I am so proud of him. Once he'd started practicing, I think he decided to just do his very best and see what happened.
He's in the top band next year! oh, you might need to take cover, my buttons are popping I'm so proud!
Thursday, May 7, 2009
I hate Middle Schoolers
...not my own, just the ones who make my son feel bad about himself.
Seems they've been making fun of his anatomy. I would love to yank a knot in their necks, as my mom used to say -- back when she was teaching school.
My husband is SO much better with this son than I am. Oldest DS and I are way too much alike and that gets in the way sometimes. He doesn't like to be touched when he's angry; neither do I. He shoves the emotions down inside until it hurts and then he lets it out; hmm...so do I.
He does NOT want me to tell anyone at school becuase he doesn't want to be called out of class. He doesn't want the bullies to be called in. But I don't want to sit by and watch these little @#$%s get away with hurting my son.
help.
Seems they've been making fun of his anatomy. I would love to yank a knot in their necks, as my mom used to say -- back when she was teaching school.
My husband is SO much better with this son than I am. Oldest DS and I are way too much alike and that gets in the way sometimes. He doesn't like to be touched when he's angry; neither do I. He shoves the emotions down inside until it hurts and then he lets it out; hmm...so do I.
He does NOT want me to tell anyone at school becuase he doesn't want to be called out of class. He doesn't want the bullies to be called in. But I don't want to sit by and watch these little @#$%s get away with hurting my son.
help.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
R&R
This past weekend I was able to get away from the rat race that is my life. I got away on Friday and did not return home until Sunday afternoon. It was just wnat I needed. I got to rest, relax and be creative. I made 50 plus cards and a couple of projects. It was just what the doctor ordered. I made new friends and had time with a very good friend that I don't get to see often enough.
Happy Cinco de Mayo!
Yes, I live in an area where this holiday is common knowledge. I even know two Cinco de Mayo babies!
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